10 tips on How to Live an Impossible Life

I’ve gotten a lot of questions recently about how to live a purposeful life, especially if you are being called to travel, change careers, or do something crazy new. Well, I’ve got a world of tips for you on this topic!

In my swift 46 years, I been a fashion model -> psychology student -> US Dept of Education employee -> massage therapist -> yoga teacher -> addictions counselor -> PhD university professor -> sailor -> startup consultant -> entrepreneur -> retreat director -> Earthship builder -> farmer

I’ve traveled to 40 countries -> driven cross-country 9 times -> lived on a sailboat, in a treehouse, in an Earthship…. You get the idea.

How is this possible???? Well, I am someone who cannot ignore the impulse to live life to the fullest. I’ve been called irresponsible, selfish, impulsive, difficult, naive, and a host of other insults by people who don’t like my life choices. I’ve also been called amazing, inspiring, passionate, badass, and cool AF by people who admire my spunk and tenacity. Opinions are like butts, everybody’s got one ☝️

Do you feel the calling to be a selfish and inspiring human? An irresponsible and amazing human? A badass unconventional unique and impulsive human being like me? 😂 Here’s my two-cents:

  1. Acknowledge the calling -> if you want it, you want it. Ain’t nothing you can do about it. You can’t eat, drink, work, or numb yourself enough to stop feeling it. So accept it.
  2. Pay attention -> you’ll be drawn to a person, place or thing. You will feel devastated or blissful when you see something that represents your calling. You will have a dream, a premonition, a synchronicity that speaks to you. Stop, look, listen.
  3. Follow the impulses even if they don’t make sense -> you’re called to reach out to someone, sign up for a class, go to a certain destination, pick up a book. Just do it. Don’t overthink it. These are the breadcrumbs of your personal path.
  4. Let go of what you thought your life was going to be -> (hardest part for me) — you had goals and dreams, they used to make sense, maybe you don’t even know who you would be without your current identity. Let that sh*t go. Stay in the discomfort of not knowing who you are, not knowing where you’re going, not knowing what you’re doing or where you will end up. All roads lead somewhere.
  5. Downsize -> (this has been critical for me) if you have too much sh*t, it is harder to be fluid, flexible and free. Everything I own fits in a 5X5 locker. If you have more stuff than me, you have too much stuff. Purge, baby, purge.
  6. Follow the leaders -> someone has already done the thing that you want to do. Find them. Talk to them. Volunteer for them. Live with them. Whatever you need to do. Hands-on experience is the most valuable way to ground you on your new path and teach you what you need to know to succeed.
  7. Maintain your finances -> I always have $avings and I always have a side-hustle. I’ve earned money 1000+ different ways — and you can too. If you’re living for free on a farm and making $10/hr as an uber driver in your spare time, you’re good. You don’t need $$$$$ all the time. You just need to be able to take care of your basic needs.
  8. Stop freaking out -> use your TOOLS to stay calm and centered. Phone a friend. Go for a walk. Do a meditation. Write in your journal. The more you worry, the less clarity and confidence that you will have. It’s normal to experience self-doubt frustration, loneliness, and insecurity on this path. There is nothing wrong with you. You are fine.
  9. Envision the future possibilities -> let your mind wander and roam into impossible future scenarios — maybe you will start your own business, maybe you will shave your head and join a monastery, doesn’t matter. Use your imagination to dream, explore, invent, fantasize, and expand. This is the space that you will eventually step into. This is the reality that will eventually become manifest.
  10. Aim for a target — don’t stay in fantasy forever. Pick a target. Get a certification. Buy some land. Land the job. Incorporate the company. I usually do this within 1–3 years of starting a new journey. I give myself a few months to deconstruct. A few months to learn. A few months to imagine. And then, a few months to create the plan.

Then I run like a wild cheetah in the direction of my dream.

Hope this is somewhat helpful. If you wanna talk more, please reach out.

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